Dear internet, this is how you gently and thoughtfully change people’s minds. No shaming, no yelling, just a nice nudge to, “Aha!”
I will aspire to use classy same tone next time I try to educate someone about something!
or maybe we could focus more on how felicia responded correctly to being called out instead of making sure oppressed people are polite enough when they’re calling people out on their bigotry
seriously, most people start out with gentle nudges. it’s when the people who are being nudged react as if you just ran over their fucking cat that leads to people getting fed up with being nice. I honestly am tired of this fucking dialogue where someone says “well if you were just nice…” You think they didn’t already try that????
Him: it has to be perfect
Me: what does?
Him: they'll kill me if I screw up this dress
Me: no they won't it's just a dress
Him: yes they will I'm going to waste their money then Mickey Mouse is going to have me dropped on a deserted island far away where I'll die alone
Me: it can't be that big a deal, are you making a parade character's dress or something?
Him: they gave me so much money, I'm going to fuck it up. She'll look hideous
Me: it'll be okay if you make a mistake, who's dress are you making?
Him: *whispers* Elsa
Me: isn't Elsa already in the park with a complete costume?
Me: then how are you doing her dress if it's done already?
Him: her park dress is done. But she has her official, internationally televised and watched by millions coronation into the Disney royal family as a queen coming up and all the other members of the royal family will be there even the queens and all the princes and they've already booked the castle and they gave me one million dollars to design the perfect dress for Elsa as my first assignment.
Him: *starts crying quietly*